“The way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice.” – Peggy O’mara. Surfing Facebook this week I saw this quote and it really resonated with me. We all know this to be true but holding ourselves accountable to constantly monitor our speech must become for most of us a concious decision. Not that any of us intend to snap at our children but when you are exhausted from working and cleaning all day and they come in, drop their coat in the hall, throw the book bag on the living room couch, forget to take their shoes off tracking mud all over the floor you scrubbed this afternoon, and leave the wrapper from the granola bar on the kitchen counter. Most of us are ready to blow! Often the impulse to speak harshly depends on your mood or your day. How did your boss speak to you today? How did that client react to you being late for the meeting? Did your husband show gratitude for the meal you spent hours making? Then the kids demand. Did you wash my jeans for tonight? Are you driving me to dance? Can I have $20? Easy to take it out on them with out even realizing. I am not placing judgement here. I have been this parent. I am sure if we are honest we all have. You may feel a little spent, too tired to “watch your words.” However words have a tremendous amount of power. They have the power to unite nations, build people up, or tear them down. Remember pretty woman? “The bad stuff is easier to believe.” We as parents and coaches and teachers need to fill our kids so full with positive speech and images of themselves that no one can tear them down. Now I am not saying tell them they are the best at something that they are not … Always be impecable with your word and speak towards truth and love and you will never go wrong. I also believe that we must adopt an “it takes a village” mentality to make the quote successful. Teachers, coaches and mentors words can many times have almost as much of an impact on a developing child as a parent. I know that the many of the values and believes I have came from teachers and coaches. I distintly remember my grade 10 history teacher asking me if I had ever considered becoming a teacher because he thought I would be good at it. My dance teacher started using me as an assistant in the classroom when I was 14 and constantly told me what a good teacher I would be. Due to their words and encouragement I never doubted my ability to teach however the opposite could have easily been said to me and my life would have taken a very different direction. Often it is not what we say to the children or people around us but how we word it. Anthony Robbins calls this Neuro Lingustic programming and he is a fasinating read if you get the time. Here are a few very simplistic examples of turning negative statements into positive ones: Instead of saying “Don’t slam the door,” say “please close the door gently.” Instead of saying “Stop running in the lobby,” say ” Please use your walking feet.” Instead of saying “Stop making so much noise,” say “Please be a little more quiet” These are not statements in the negative that are going to cause a child to go down a bad path but it is just a little change in wording that brings a positive spin on the situation and may perhaps defuse the negative energy. If you want to test yourself try this. Give your self a one week negativity diet. Trust me this will be the most difficult diet you will every take on. No negative thoughts about yourself, your house, your bills, your child’s eating habits, or that barking dog next door. Find a way for one week to turn everything into a positive. Be grateful. Above all be kind to yourself. We parents are working hard and loving our kids. Thank you for entrusting your children to me as their teacher! I promise to do my best to look at the positive in each child. www.movewithgrace.ca
A special read for parents of 3 and 4 year olds
The Dance of Independence
Dance class may be the 1st time children are separated from their parents.
The new place and people can be frightening at first, until the child becomes comfortable in the class.
Many children take the first few classes to watch or participate
This is normal and as long as they are learning, there is no problem!
Other children may take several weeks to get used to the class.
Though your child may feel safer with you in the room, remember that other children may be shy in your pres-
ence, so parents are encouraged to wait in the lobby if possible. (you can still see them from our lobby)
So what do you do if your child is scared?
? Explain what dance class will be like several times before coming to class.
? Watch other children in classes.
? Come early to look around the studio and to transition into the room.
? Encourage your child to teach YOU the class after they take class. They learn to appreciate dancing with and
? Make a plan with the child for you to move further away each lesson.
? Set a time for hugs and kisses before and after class.
? Let the child tell you how they could make class feel safer- a teddy to stand in for you
? Value this dance of independence for what it is!
Trust that the MWG staff are all kid loving adults and we are excited to have your child in our studio
Don’t be afraid to talk to Robyn or Jim if you have a concern. Robyn has been teaching dance for over 20 years, we have been looking after the kids in cambridge for 9 year and we have 3 of our own 🙂
Your kids will do great
call if you have questions 519 650 6533
If you are new to Move With Grace, you probably don’t know about our fun studio spirit game that we run every year! We have car window stickers that show your love for the best dance studio in Cambridge…where other organizations charge up to $15.00 for these, we like to give them as a gift and a thank you to our families. What makes it really fun is that every month we have spotters in the community that send photos in of a vehicle sporting one of our studio stickers. There are prizes….really good prizes 🙂
Last year we gave away a 19″ LCD television, a $200 Keg gift card, $200 gas card, iTunes gift certificates, movie passes and much more! Get them at the front desk, even Grandma and grandpa can play!
We are ecstatic with the turn out at Competitive Camp day 1, the returning MWG team members and all of our new dancers. Things are already looking great, as well as the addition of two new boys rounding out our group to 7 🙂
Lots of photo’s and videos to come 🙂
Thanks for making it a great day!!
Move With Grace Dance Studios Cambridge
Gustave Eiffel, designer of the Eiffel Tower, enjoyed a successful career as an architect despite having dyslexia and a paralyzing fear of heights.